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Gooey Lemon Lime Salted Butter Slice ( Toys - manual or machine post)

Asparagus Appero Velouté ( A Thousand and One Things to do with Aparagus)

Oeuf Mollet ( A Thousand and One Things to do with Aparagus)

Fresh Asparagus ( A Thousand and One Things to do with Aparagus)

Strawberry Fool (Temperatures Rising post)

Death and Co (Desperate Target post)

Susie's Tian ( Summer Bliss post)

Spiced Up Chocolate Mousse ( Mummy Porn? post)

Bay Leaf and Lemon Roasted Coquelet ( Pizza Face post)

Cottage Cheese Salad ( Ouch! post)

Sunday Chilli ( Co Co CO Communication post)

Resolution Chicken Soup ( Sunshine and Joy post)

6 Minute Succulent Foie Gras ( Foie Gras Shortcut post)

Carrot & Coconut Spiced Soup ( Charm and Charme post)

Amaretto Chocolate Cake ( Autumn Dash post)

Sunday Supper Fettucini ( Haircut Hell post)

Susie's Fennel Seed and Lime Chicken (The Gracious Art of Meditation post)

Nigella's Coconut Rice ( The Gracious Art of Meditation post)

Cherry Tomato Curry ( The Gracious Art of Meditation post)

Old Fashioned ( Navigation Nightmares post)

End of Summer Apple Tart (Keeping Up post)

Warm Ravioli du Dauphiné Salad ( Cold Summer, Warm Salad post )

Pecorino, Tuna, Fresh Basil and Summer Tomato Salad (Salad Days post)

Easiest Dreamiest Dark Chocolate Ice cream ( Beware Pigeon post)

Ginger Kisses ( Mmmwah Mmmwah Dahling! post)

A "Lucky Stiff" Cocktail ( Are we all chambermaids ? post)

Blueberry, Banana, Carrot Smoothie ( Get Thin, Get Thin, Get Thin post)

Chilled Cucumber and Coriander Soup ( Husbands who do Housework post)

Pear, Almond, Dark Chocolate Spiced Coffee Cake ( Go Dutch! post)

Orgasmic Dark Chocolate and Lime Zest Gateau (Loss is Plus post)

Warm Parsnip Salad (Season's Parsnip post)

Champagne and Raspberry Gratin(Champagne! post)

Laksa ( Getting On post)

Cheat's Christmas Cake ( Last Minute Madness post)

Pecan Pie ( The Joy of "Thanks" post )

Flourless Dark Chocolate Almond Brownies ( Antumn Brownie post)

Christmas Chocolate Truffle Fudge Cake ( Christmas... Already ? post )

Foie Gras Sauternes Terrine ( Oh, To be a Duck post )

Fig Pear Apple Spiced Almond Crumble ( Linguistic LOL post )

Pepper, Fresh Tomato,Garlic, Serrano, Pasta Shells ( God Give us Parity post)

Lemon Ginger Hot Toddy for Colds ( Husbands with Colds post)

Autumn Tomato Soup ( Big Noise post)

Chocolate Mountain Crisp Cookies ( working, WORKING, Mothering, Exploding post)

Inspired Chicken Liver Paté ( Everything's Gone Retro post)

Spiced Apple Yoghurt Cake, Lemon Butter Icing ( Body Balance post )

Raspberry, White Peach and Limoncello Cups ( Disdain and More Summer Pudding #3 post )

Very Berry Summer Pudding ( Very Berry, Summer Puddings #2 post )

Minted Peach Soup ( Back to School, Summer Puddings #1 post )

Full Fibre Toasted Muesli ( World Cup Fever? post)

Energy Spring Salad ( Energy Spring Salad post)

Chicken Breast Tossed in Basilled Gremolato (Gremolato GOGO post)

Osso Bucco ( Monday Osso Bucco post)

Moistest Almond Expresso Cake with Coffee Butter Icing ( The Cake Which Gets you What you Want...Anything! post)

Red Pepper Tomato Tuna Pasta Bake (Pasta Bake for really Frustrated Mothers post )

Spring Strawberry & Blueberry Spiced Crumble (Dessert for a Spring Evening post )

Quinoa Asparagus Feta Salad (Annual Cringe post)

Lavender Dream Ice Cream ( Lavender Dream post)

Nasturtium, Cream Cheese & Ham Sandwiches ( Flower Power post)

Best Potato Salad Ever ( First Spring BBQ post)

Basil, Chive, Goat Cheese Stuffed Portobello Mushrooms ( Portobello Fresh post)

Balsamic Berry Salad ( Berry Power post)

Moist Raspberry and Lemon Zest Dessert Cake ( pre Wedding Supper post )

Mackerel Crumble (Omega Me post)

NYC Pecan and Choc Chip Cookies (MyAmericanMarket.com post)

Stawberry and Cherry Tomato Salad with Basil and Mint ( Salad Days post)

Spring Detox Smoothie ( Incredible Blimp post )

Baked Cinnamon and Orange Zest Cheesecake( On Cheesecake post)

Blood Orange Braised Endives (Beautiful Blood Oranges post )

Egg Free Choc Mousse ( Orgasmic Choc Mousse post)

Timeless Onion Soup ( Mid-Term Suppers post)

Caper, Red Onion & Bacon Tart ( Late Lunch Tart post )

Dale's Poisson Cru ( Don't Tell Them its Raw post )

Duck Sausage Curry ( Mid Week Bangers post )

Easy Crepes with various toppings (Its "Crepe Day" in France post)

Red Onion Tart (Winter Suppers Again - Classic Red Onion Tart post )

Classic NYC Bloody Mary ( Hangover Brunch Cure post)

Pesto Salmon (more Winter Suppers, Pesto Salmon post)

Soothing Lemon Soufflé ( Winter Suppers - Back to easy desserts post )

Mash and Variations (Winter Suppers 3 - The Glory of Mashed Potato post)

Braised Vegetable Hot Pot with Espelette Chicken ( see Winter Suppers 2 post)

French Apple Tart, Unadulterated ( Supper for Winter Term 1 post)

Spicey Chorizo Tomato Spaghetti ( Supper for Winter Term 1 post)

Veal/Veau Orloff, Julia Child (Just what is Veau Orloff post)

Christmas Detox Hints ( Over Christmas post)

Espuma Roquefort, Celery, Panacetta (We Workshopped post) Mille Feuilles Sud Ouest (We Workshopped post)

Gourmet Classic Egg Nog (Christmas Spirit post)

Lemon Roasted Chicken (ps More on Backdoor post)

Mrs Wood's Heavenly Honey Cake ( Mrs Wood's Heavenly Honey Cake post)

Black Ink Spaghetti with Shellfish (Spaghetti al Nero di Seppia post)

Boeuf Bourguignon, Simple ( Food is Love post)

Smoked Salmon, Dill, Cream Cheese Scrambled Eggs (One Plate Brunch post)

Heavenly Green Soup ( Things Green post)

Dark Chocolate & Chestnut Muffins ( see Sunday Muffin post)

Rhubard, Cardomom & Lime Muffins ( Sunday Muffin post)

Date, Walnut & Marscapone, Lemon Zest Muffins (Sunday Muffin post)

Apple , Pecan, Toasted Rolled Oats Muffins (Sunday Muffin post)

Susie's Red Wine Sausage Hot-Pot ( see Perspectives Men & Women post)

Mother's Pumpkin Soup ( see 70's Orange post)

Mimosa ( see Back to Brunch post )

Chestnut Panna Cotta

Artichoke Risotto

Risotto alla milanese/Saffron Risotto

Susie's Side Artichokes

Slow Poached Figs with Amaretti Biscuits

Janice's Fig Preserves ( see Getting Figgy post)

Chicken and Prawn Thai Green Curry

Mother's Waldorf Salad

Cherry Tomato and Pistachio Deep Dish Tart

Walnut Tart

Green Crunch Salald

Gorgonzola & Parsley Fettucini

Berry Pavlova

Susie's Pesto - Parsley and Walnut, Basil and Pinenut

Tomato Home-Tapenade Poached Chicken Easy Tart

Susie's Comfort Risotto

Pat's Basil & Corn Soup

Susie's Raspberry & Lemon Zest Tiramisu

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Wednesday, 7 October 2009

BEING AVERAGE.....

Continuing comments about school....

When my daughter was 4 years old I was sent a " convocation" to see her kindergarten teacher. This is basically a " summons"... I cancelled classes, appointments, and was at the school door at 4 30 sharp to see the teacher. On the way there I was imagining all sorts of things...was she being bullied, was there a health problem, was she fighting, was she mute, had they detected a hearing or visual related problem, ringworm...?

I sat waiting for the teacher feeling the same kind of anguish I'd felt as a school girl outside the headmistress's office. I was duly called and went in.. "Madame, thank you for coming. I have summoned you here today because ( wait for this!!...) your daughter can't trace her w's." Being "me" I burst out laughing and looked around the room for hidden cameras. Is this some kind of joke, I asked. The teacher in question turned red and said that indeed it was not.

By now I was beginning to heat up a little...I couldn't believe it. I had been summoned because my 4 year old could not trace her w's!! How mad was that? This is one of those moments where you start pinching yourself to see if you are awake, alive, etc. I had cancelled classes and I needed that money to feed my children. I grabbed a piece of paper and a pen and asked my daughter to write a "w." She wrote a "w." The teacher ripped the paper from her hands and said that was all very well but she couldn't trace one.

Well the teacher got a lecture from yours truly about the pettiness of this " summons" and how she was wasting both my and her time. Then it all came out...."You know, Madame, it is a handicap for a child to be english in the french school system? It can lead to learning disabilities." To which I replied, "Well lucky she isn't english then...she was born in France, she is French and I am not english either." I walked out.

Many things dawned upon me about that particular teacher...Firstly, she was in the wrong business. You need to have a heart to teach, especially 4 years olds. Secondly, it really helps to NOT be xenophobic. I also realised that I had never been given the notices for the PTA meetings, a committee I had been voted onto by other parents. She'd never given my daughter the meeting notices to hand on to her mother as she probably thought that "being english" I wouldn't understand..or worse still, that I couldn't trace my w's.

Sad lady! I think the meeting had had the goal of making me feel inferior and foreign. It didn't...she'd made me laugh, made me mad and, frankly, made herself look ridiculous.

 My daughter is the most beautiful child. She always has been. She is kind, good and has a beautiful nature.She is bright, alert and interested in her world. Her one calvary has been that she has always been average at school. I have always told her in my anglo-saxon way, that as long as she tries her best that is all that counts. By her last year in primary school, CM2, she had a terrible complex and repeated incessantly that she was " null" /stupid.

I have noticed even with my own adult business school students that if you are average you feel like you are worth less. Well, not everybody can be the best, its simply NOT logical.

Why, in France, are children made to feel like this? This is a country with a heritage drenched with poets, writers, composers, musicians, artists, scientists, philosophers, not to mention humanists. As I mentioned in a previous post its just not enough to be good at one subject, one must be good at everything. I remember when my son received a 20/20 on his report for latin....there was a red circle around the 11 for maths but not one around the 20! DAH!! I personally bat for the anglo/american method that we should encourage and not discourage, reinforce and praise, help where help is needed and say what is great first rather than not at all.

At my school in New Zealand there were the girls who were amazing at sport, amazing at maths ( never me!!), amazing at english, amazing at music and amazing at sciences....we were all different. And having different talents was OK where I came from.

We decided to leave the public school system and put our daughter in a private college ( year 6 -9). She is in a brilliant little structure in an international section where she feels good about herself. For the first time she comes home from school beaming. Yesterday she came home with her first mini report - I was very worried that this would be the usual litany of criticism with nothing positive anywhere. How wrong I was. Instead of focusing on her rather low result in maths, it focused on what was good first..." Encouraging results in French and Technology. Well done. Have the confidence to consolidate your maths result and please do not hesitate to ask in maths class when you don't understand"..... Pavlova for pudding tonight!!!!!

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2 comments:

  1. Used this in class today with a French mum, who absolutely agrees with everything you said! Then of course she mention the fact that you can't sack bad teachers here. So if your kid is unlucky and get a bad one there isn't much you can do about it, except get a home tutor and eat pasta & rice for 6 months to be able to pay for it!

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  2. Actually sending a child to a good private school is probably cheaper than a tutor once a week!! I really searched and searched for the one best suited to my daughter and am over the moon with the joys of GOOD FRENCH SCHOOLING.....yes it DOES exist!!
    The problem in France is not so much that you can't fire the teachers but that they are not trained to be teachers.Rather, the choice is based on academic grounds...great at your subject and they assume you can teach it. WRONG!! Pedagogy is another animal and its something innate and also learned/improved...hence teachers' training college in most other countries in the world.

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